The beauty of capitalism and marriage

If a marriage is a contest, both are winners.

A good company offers a good product or service at a fair price. A great company offers a great product or service at an outstanding price. The difference between the two is vast. The former is an example of a mediocre company simply wanting to survive. The latter is an example of a great company focused on blowing the competition out of the water. It is there to win the contest.

Capitalism glorifies greatness. The rich-rich strive for greatness. Survival is good enough for most people but not good enough for the rich-rich.

So what does capitalism have to do with a marriage? Plenty.

How many times have you heard that a marriage is a game of give and take? That would be fine if you want a marriage that survives, which in comparison to a divorce doesn’t sound all that bad.

But you didn’t marry someone because you didn’t want a divorce. You married someone because you love him or her. If you love someone more than anybody else you know in the world, then your actions must reflect that love.

Therefore, let a marriage be a fun contest. It is a contest where the couple try to outdo the other in caring for each other. If the contest goes on every day for a year, a decade, a lifetime, imagine how strong their marriage would be.

In such a marriage, there is no balance sheet of who gave and who took and what is fair and not fair — all very subjective and prone to perception error — but quite simply how much of a tangible contribution can be made.

Of course this contest must have two players. If only one player is participating then it isn’t a contest. It is a solo act. And a solo act isn’t a marriage.